We
all have reached this place at some time in our lives. You know the place… Your job, schooling, or
relationship may be just starting or is nearing an end. You are looking to
start, grow or close your business. You find yourself bored with your life and
you are wondering what now.
Looking
into the face of change, some of you may find yourself feeling panic, frozen, or
possibly even indecisive. You want answers to life’s big questions:
Which
way should I go?
I’m not sure, the way the prevailing winds
are blowing perhaps.
What
should I do?
What my friends, parents, or partner say I
should do.
How do
I know?
I don’t know; if I’m making someone else
happy then I’ll know.
How
will things turn out?
I will have to wait and see how things turn
out, I really don’t have a say in how they will turn out.
These
answers aren’t comforting; we cannot see into the future. As a life coach I work with clients to address ways to navigate and initiate change in their lives.
Knowing the landscape of your life, you make decisions that support your goals.
In business, and daily life activities, we implement this process automatically
without much thought and consideration. We approach living out habit. This, in
part, is the myth of addressing change. Our habitual behavior may not serve us well
as we face new challenges or changing times.
We “go with what we know” without realizing that it may no longer or
really had never served us well. We are operating on the myths of addressing
change.
Myth 1: Make changes
based on your personal experiences
Our
mind and personal experience and knowledge are often times the first place we
look to when addressing change. Those
who rely solely on this approach risk repeating the same mistakes over and over
again. The myth of life dictates that our ability to identify with life
experience as truth results in creating more of this truth in our lives. If
this truth is a truth of painful experiences, it becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
Myth 2: Making a change
based on your emotions and intuition
Not
everyone is in touch with their emotions and intuition or explore them freely. Emotions are very useful in interpreting and /
or being aware of underlying factors that may not be evident through hard
tangible data. For some this is a gut-feeling for others they have a flash of
insight or conclusion, and others feel twinges in certain parts of their body. Relying
solely on emotions and intuition may offer little potential significance, it is
not linked with practicality and it may be fleeting.
Myth 3: Making a change
based on your spirituality or religion
Many
of us look to our spirituality or religion to guide our decisions. Spirituality is a quiet place, a higher level
of wisdom for the greater good. This can be pertinent to you, your life, your
family life, community, work, the world, and so on. The levels of knowledge
accessible here are limitless. Relying solely on this approach does not take
your personal experience into consideration. It is as though we are connected
to a universal storehouse of knowledge.
Truth: Making a change
based on how you designed your life
More
and more people are designing their lives. What do you do when you design your
life? It means being clear about who you are and what matters most to you. The
payoff is you create the potential for a happier outcome to the change you are
facing. Living a Rightly Successful life,
one YOU designed, offers a holistic approach to facing, dealing with and
initiating change. It is far less judgmental and emotional. You synthesize all of these approaches, your personal experiences, your emotions and intuition and your
spirituality and integrate them to make a choice about the change that leads to
your own Personal Freedom.
You
address change with higher levels of confidence. This is something that many
people work with a life coach on because the are maturing and seeking more significance in their lives and
meaning in their work. By making decisions about change from your Personal Action Certificate (PAC), the
plan from which you are living your life, you can increase the likelihood that you
can clearly address those big life questions.
Which
way should I go?
In the direction that is consistent with how
you said you were living your life in your PAC
What
should I do?
Live in accordance to the roles you described
in your PAC
How do
I know?
You have the experience peace, calm, clarity
and freedom of choice.
How
will things turn out?
YOU are the one that says how things will
turn out because you have designed your own life.
Friends,
this is long enough for one read. If you want to know more about designing your
life and making choices out of Personal
Freedom, feel free to contact me. Also, check out my earlier posts on Personal Freedom. I also offer coach and self-directed
workshops on 3 Steps to Personal Freedom. You can learn more about
those at www.rightlysuccessful.com.
Until then, I
would love to read your comments!
Robin