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I’m a mom and I am incredibly proud of it. At the same time, I’m a daughter and while I
am tremendously proud of that too (I did a lot more to become and be a mom). Being
a daughter - at the age of 53 - is different work than being a mom, maybe even,
perhaps even harder! Really who
knew? Now I do. Do you? I, at some point in my life thought I could
be my own person. I could make my own
decisions, have my own thoughts, and make up my own mind. But aha… discovery
time for me! I still have mom and
daughter to take into consideration
.
I’m a two legged-woman, and consequently having only one
shoe, aka being partially prepared to go through life does me no good. Walking
through life as either a mom OR a daughter has not served me. As a
matter of discussion, what it really does is make life a lot out of
balance. Consider, ambling through life
with just one shoe, even if the soul of that shoe is only ¼ inch thick, and you
are pretty well grounded, you are still to some extent, off balance when you
walk. Now picture yourself with a 1’’
heel, really, talk to me about balance and comfort and being nimble and being
able to run when you need to. None of which you are able to gracefully or
effortlessly do as you attempt to navigate through life with just one shoe.
In talking with women I have learned that so many of them do
this unconsciously. They are myopic on an aspect of their life, either on being
a daughter, or a mom / an employee or mom / a woman-wife-girlfriend or a mom. They
think that they are making a decision from a balanced point of view when in
fact these women are making a decision from an “OR / one shoed” point of view,
not a holistic approach to living.
Earlier this week, I exchanged emails with an exceptional
woman and family leader. Notice I said “woman
AND family leader”. With her husband, they looked at their lives and chose to
live life from a place of love, harmony and peace and most importantly, do what
was right for their family. In looking
at what worked for them. The entire
THREE generations of family members actively chose to move to a local that
would be right for them. It fit their emotional, spiritual, lifestyle and
cultural needs.
This family took six months to get clear about what brings
them joy, what their financial requirements were and how they could be a
stronger family and then took the next courageous act and made it happen. They
uprooted the complete family so that the entire family could live balanced,
wholesome and happy lives. Wow, I
commend and applaud that choice.
So I ask, when was the last time you looked at your work life balance and
chose, what works and what does not work?
Have you recently taking your own life into your hands and said, X, Y
and Z brings me joy and I am committed to bringing more of that into my life
and less of 1, 3, and 5. Frankly, it
does not necessarily mean that you change locales. It could mean you change
jobs, develop new or different friends, suss out new hobbies, find and join a
church or spiritual home or approach your diet or exercise differently.
Do tell - are you ready to accept that one shoe does no good
for a two legged woman? By golly, I’m a two legged women and I want to stop
hopping through life, NOW! And I want to do this for me, for my family and for my mother (and father)! What new will you do for yourself today?
Friends,
this is long enough for one read. Consider designing your
life and making choices out of Personal
Freedom, feel free to contact me. Also, check out my earlier posts on Personal Freedom. I also offer coach and self-directed
workshops on 3 Steps to Personal Freedom. You can learn more about
those at www.rightlysuccessful.com.
Until then, I
would love to read your comments!
Robin
