Three Myths of Change: Life Coaching and You

We all have reached this place at some time in our lives.  You know the place… Your job, schooling, or relationship may be just starting or is nearing an end. You are looking to start, grow or close your business. You find yourself bored with your life and you are wondering what now.

Looking into the face of change, some of you may find yourself feeling panic, frozen, or possibly even indecisive. You want answers to life’s big questions:

Which way should I go?

I’m not sure, the way the prevailing winds are blowing perhaps.

What should I do?

What my friends, parents, or partner say I should do.

How do I know?

I don’t know; if I’m making someone else happy then I’ll know.

How will things turn out?

I will have to wait and see how things turn out, I really don’t have a say in how they will turn out.

These answers aren’t comforting; we cannot see into the future. As a life coach I work with clients to address ways to navigate and initiate change in their lives. Knowing the landscape of your life, you make decisions that support your goals. In business, and daily life activities, we implement this process automatically without much thought and consideration. We approach living out habit. This, in part, is the myth of addressing change. Our habitual behavior may not serve us well as we face new challenges or changing times.  We “go with what we know” without realizing that it may no longer or really had never served us well. We are operating on the myths of addressing change.

Myth 1: Make changes based on your personal experiences

Our mind and personal experience and knowledge are often times the first place we look to when addressing change.  Those who rely solely on this approach risk repeating the same mistakes over and over again. The myth of life dictates that our ability to identify with life experience as truth results in creating more of this truth in our lives. If this truth is a truth of painful experiences, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Myth 2: Making a change based on your emotions and intuition

Not everyone is in touch with their emotions and intuition or explore them freely.  Emotions are very useful in interpreting and / or being aware of underlying factors that may not be evident through hard tangible data. For some this is a gut-feeling for others they have a flash of insight or conclusion, and others feel twinges in certain parts of their body. Relying solely on emotions and intuition may offer little potential significance, it is not linked with practicality and it may be fleeting.

Myth 3: Making a change based on your spirituality or religion

Many of us look to our spirituality or religion to guide our decisions.  Spirituality is a quiet place, a higher level of wisdom for the greater good. This can be pertinent to you, your life, your family life, community, work, the world, and so on. The levels of knowledge accessible here are limitless. Relying solely on this approach does not take your personal experience into consideration. It is as though we are connected to a universal storehouse of knowledge.

Truth: Making a change based on how you designed your life

More and more people are designing their lives. What do you do when you design your life? It means being clear about who you are and what matters most to you. The payoff is you create the potential for a happier outcome to the change you are facing.  Living a Rightly Successful life, one YOU designed, offers a holistic approach to facing, dealing with and initiating change. It is far less judgmental and emotional. You synthesize all of these approaches, your personal experiences, your emotions and intuition and your spirituality and integrate them to make a choice about the change that leads to your own Personal Freedom.

You address change with higher levels of confidence. This is something that many people work with a life coach on because the are maturing and seeking more significance in their lives and meaning in their work. By making decisions about change from your Personal Action Certificate (PAC), the plan from which you are living your life, you can increase the likelihood that you can clearly address those big life questions.

Which way should I go?

In the direction that is consistent with how you said you were living your life in your PAC

What should I do?

Live in accordance to the roles you described in your PAC

How do I know?

You have the experience peace, calm, clarity and freedom of choice.

How will things turn out?

YOU are the one that says how things will turn out because you have designed your own life.

Friends, this is long enough for one read. If you want to know more about designing your life and making choices out of Personal Freedom, feel free to contact me. Also, check out my earlier posts on Personal Freedom.  I also offer coach and self-directed workshops on 3 Steps to Personal Freedom.  You can learn more about those at www.rightlysuccessful.com.

Until then, I would love to read your comments!
Robin